The most powerful determinants of our life experiences are the stories we choose to tell ourselves. We decide who's a villain and who's a victim. We decide whether a plot is sinister or tragic. Spiritual mastery involves being conscious about the narratives we tell, then editing out those passages that deviate from Truth.
How? Jesus advised removing the proverbial "log" from our own eyes first. Example: If I cast a coworker as a domineering bully, my job is to handle my own feelings or frustration or indignation and see the situation more clearly. If I cast my neighbor as a gross slob, it's on me to release tension or anxiety that arises and be present to my own need for order. I also check for any areas of my life where I might be a bully or a slob.
As we recognize the instances in which we're judging another's actions to be wrong or bad, we clear the slate of consciousness for a broader perspective to emerge. With practice, it's a perspective that is increasingly shaped by love and acceptance.
I wrote this message for a Lent booklet published by "big" Unity. It's a guide for a 40-day spiritual practice based on the idea of fasting from negativity and feasting on truth. (Officially, Lent begins March 6 but, as of this post, free copies could still be ordered online: Click here.)