How to NOT Get Caught Up in Drama

By Rev. Kurt Condra 
 
Reporters are trained to cover the 5-Ws (Who? What? Where? When? Why?) They’re good questions for making sense of human drama. But I’m convinced too much focus on them detracts from our spiritual power.
 
Instead, I find asking deeper questions can redirect energy from exacerbating drama and conflict to creating harmony and connection. 
 
Consider the New Testament story of the woman taken in adultery and brought before Jesus to be stoned. He gives no energy to questions of, “Who did what to whom, when and where?” and effectively sidesteps the drama surrounding the offense. Instead, he challenges her accusers, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone.” Once the vigilantes have left he advises the woman, “Go and sin no more.”
 
It's a response that shifts both accused and accuser from focusing on outer circumstances to inner reflection. It’s a necessary shift if we’re to grow in awareness and understanding.
 
So when drama arises, as it does in all our lives, here are five questions to consider instead of the 5-Ws:
•    What in this situation is a trigger for me?
•    What can I learn?
•    Where’s the blessing?
•    What changes will align me with the divine?
•    What’s the most loving response?
 
Be calm. Be curious. Be free.